You ever feel like you're raising kids, building a marriage, pursuing a career or calling, juggling schedules, emotions—and somehow still expected to hold it all together?
Yeah… same.
We’re in a season. One of those stretching, refining, tender ones. Where you're parenting a preteen in a blended family… While carrying the weight of work-life balance. All at once.
And listen... I wouldn’t trade it for anything, but I’d be lying if I said it hasn’t brought me to my knees. More than once...
1. When the Pressure Hits Home
We’ve been learning something deeply personal in this season:
When you’re trying to hold your family, your marriage, your work, your purpose together—and you’re not staying connected to God?
It’ll start to show. It’ll wear on your peace. It’ll drain your love. It’ll stretch your soul in ways you weren’t meant to carry alone.
But here’s what God showed me—and I mean deep in my spirit:
Having a family centered in Jesus is a ministry. For real. In every sense of the word.
It’s not a side thing. It’s not less important than your job, your title, your platform, or your purpose. It is the purpose.
It’s ministry when you’re up late comforting your child.
It’s ministry when you choose grace with your spouse.
When you forgive before you feel like it.
When you pray instead of react.
So don’t ever let this world—or even your own expectations—make you believe your home is less than your calling. Your home is the calling.
2. Preteen Hits Different
Let’s talk about this age for a second. When the sweet, silly, talk-your-ear-off kid turns into someone who wants more space. Wants more time with cousins and friends. Less time with us. Doesn’t want to hang around like they used to.
It stings a bit. Not because they’re doing anything wrong—but because you love them so much.
We remember what it was like. That age where you’re trying to find yourself, and your parents suddenly feel like aliens. 😅 It’s normal. They're growing. Testing. Figuring out who they are. But oof—it still hurts sometimes.
But it’s not rejection. It’s transition. So we’ve learned to pray more than we talk.
It’s not about fixing it in the flesh—it’s about trusting the Holy Spirit to meet them where we can’t.
“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” —Proverbs 22:6
We don’t own our child. We steward them. And that means trusting God to do what only He can do in their hearts.
We got to pray just to make it today:
Jesus, help us not panic when we feel distance. Remind us this is a season, not a failure. Show us how to love our child like You do... patient, present, and full of grace. In Jesus name, Amen.
3. Blended Doesn’t Mean Broken
Blended families? They’re full of beauty. There’s love here. But there’s also layers. Where old pain and new love come together. Where you ask yourself, Am I doing enough? Too much? Should I back off… or lean in?
That’s when surrender matters most. Let go of expectations. Let go of the pressure. Let go of needing to be understood.
“Love is patient, love is kind… it does not insist on its own way…” —1 Corinthians 13:4-5
It’s less about finding balance and more about finding Jesus in every moment.
And some days, that means showing up with quiet grace when all you want to do is cry in the closet or explain yourself one more time.
We got to pray just to make it today:
Jesus, remind us that You are in this blended story. You’re in this. Help us surrendering more. We trust You to fill every gap. In Jesus name, Amen.
4. Ministry Doesn’t Pause for Marriage
When you’re doing life and ministry together, the lines get blurry. You start off as partners in the Gospel… But over time, you start talking more about the mission than the marriage.
Jayson and I? We met through work. We built together long before we ever said “I do.” So trust me—it’s easy to slide into productivity and miss intimacy.
But God checks us. Ain’t that right, boo 😏 He’ll be like, “Hey—y’all prayed for everybody but each other today.”
Now? We guard our marriage like it’s holy ground. We protect our peace. We carve out time. No cameras. No strategy. No mission. Just us.
And here’s what we’ve had to learn:
There’s a big difference between being used by God… and being intimate with Him.
Because ministry without intimacy? It’ll wear you out. Fast.
“Two are better than one… a cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” —Ecclesiastes 4:9-12
Jesus is our third strand. Not ministry. Not work. Not success. Just Him.
We got to pray just to make it today:
Lord, protect our marriage, keep us centered in You. Teach us how to serve each other the way You serve us. Let love lead everything we build. In Jesus name, Amen.
5. When in Doubt, Go to the Wonderful Counselor
This blog? It’s not a “how-to.” It’s a “we’re still learning.”
It’s a testimony in progress. It’s us saying—we don’t have all the answers… but we know the One who does.
Because there’s only one voice that can cut through the noise, the exhaustion, the pressure—and that’s the voice of Jesus.
“And His name shall be called Wonderful Counselor…” —Isaiah 9:6
We’ve learned to sit with Him before we speak. To pause when our hearts are defensive. To cry when we feel unseen. To ask, “God… what do You want me to do here?”
And every single time—He shows up. In peace. In scripture. In supernatural clarity. Not because the situation changes instantly, but because He changes how we carry it.
We got to pray just to make it today:
Jesus, we don’t have all the answers. But You do. Speak into this season—the questions, the pressure, the sharpening. Be our peace. Be our Counselor. We need You every step of the way. In Jesus name, amen.
To the Moms and Dads Who Are Tired… Let This Encourage You
If you’re holding parenting, marriage, and ministry all at once, it’s not because you’re overloaded—it’s because you’re Called.
We know the pressure. We know that constant feeling like you’re dropping the ball somewhere every single day.
Listen, fam... Trust that Jesus is holding it all together, even when it feels like you're falling apart.
So let Him. Let Jesus be the One who fills your gaps, calms your spirit, and leads your steps.
You were never meant to carry this alone.
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